I was having a conversation with one of my closest friends today when I said, “Thanks for trusting me with how you’re feeling… I take that trust as a huge compliment.” and she said “I haven’t thought of it like that before.” People will share
How can making decisions lighten the mental load for others? In our busy lives, we make lots of choices every day, both big and small. Whether it’s planning dinner with friends or deciding what task or project to do next, every single choice we make
Is it worth asking for help when you could do it on your own? Here’s a short story from when I was younger to answer this question. “I can move this.” a kid version of me thought. At this time, the dresser in my bedroom
If you’re someone who tends to say sorry for minor misunderstandings, or things that are not your fault, and you want to stop saying sorry so much, this post is for you. What if you could break the habit of over apologizing, strengthen your connections
Learning how to express your needs in any relationship can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be. In this post, I’ll show you three steps to expressing your needs clearly and concisely. In a way that is disarming and invites mutual understanding with the
Have you ever been lying in bed in the morning, and noticed that just thinking about the day ahead made you feel more exhausted? The morning roulette wheel is a fun/creative way to help make getting out of bed a little bit easier. I’ll explain more
If you consider yourself a high achiever, you probably care a lot about doing a good job… at everything. You like to set standards for yourself, and you try to do things “well” or “right”. It’s an honorable goal, to do things as best as
“HA, You had me fooled.” The David’s Bridal consultant said. She didn’t believe me when I told her I liked the dresses I was trying on, because she was watching my facial expressions. Each time I put one on, I looked in the mirror with
A few weeks ago, I accidentally deleted my entire business website off the internet. All the pages, all 70 something blog posts… All of it was gone and seemed to be unrecoverable. When I tried to look up my own website from the frontend, this
Do you find it difficult to actually relax in your off time? In this post, I’m sharing what I’ve discovered often causes this feeling, and what we can do about it, so we can finally relax. Before figuring out why I couldn’t relax, my life
When you hear people refer to themselves as perfectionists, they are usually suggesting that they care a lot about doing their best. They’re people who care about giving a valiant effort, and producing work that they can feel proud of. When people self-identify as perfectionists,
As Bryan Stevenson says, “Each of us is more than the worst thing we’ve ever done.” With this strongly held belief in mind, I traveled to the Upper Peninsula to deliver workshops to 60 incarcerated lifers in the Chippewa Correctional Facility this past weekend. As
There’s a common misunderstanding that can create a lot of unnecessary shame when we’re struggling: Read on to avoid making this mistake Sometimes when we’re struggling, we interpret the struggle as a sign that there is something wrong with us. We think, “If I can’t
Warning: If you decide you want to make a 3 or 5 year plan, there’s something you should know. A plan is NOT a code of conduct. It’s not a law. It’s not a spell cast over you that you are therefore “bound to follow
I’ve seen this quote about resilience being posted and reposted a lot lately: “I dream of never being called resilient again in my life. I’m exhausted by strength. I want support. I want softness. I want ease. I want to be amongst kin. Not patted
If you want to have an amazing life, you also want to make sure the goals you’re setting aren’t just stamps on a success passport. Success and fulfillment are very different things, but they often get conflated. If the only goals we set for ourselves
When I hear 20-somethings joking about “being old”, I wonder, What are we subconsciously implying? And how does this affect the way we view our lives? Perhaps that there are fewer opportunities to have fun? Or that there is less time to do and figure
During college, I studied the dominant theory of motivation (self-determination theory). The theory states that there are three factors that contribute to intrinsic motivation (“intrinsic” meaning: motivation that originates within you, i.e. not created by an external reward or punishment). The big 3 are The
If you’ve ever worked with a coach, you might’ve heard the notorious phrase, “I have a hunch, may I share it with you?” or perhaps a variation of it. This is one way a coach shares something they are observing, and it is usually followed
Earlier this month, I did a 5k race called “The Dream Dash” in memory of my friend, Joe Manfreda, who died unexpectedly when we were juniors in high school. It was the first one I’ve run in a few years due to my own health
