Warning: If you decide you want to make a 3 or 5 year plan, there’s something you should know. A plan is NOT a code of conduct. It’s not a law. It’s not a spell cast over you that you are therefore “bound to follow
During college, I studied the dominant theory of motivation (self-determination theory). The theory states that there are three factors that contribute to intrinsic motivation (“intrinsic” meaning: motivation that originates within you, i.e. not created by an external reward or punishment). The big 3 are The
Earlier this month, I did a 5k race called “The Dream Dash” in memory of my friend, Joe Manfreda, who died unexpectedly when we were juniors in high school. It was the first one I’ve run in a few years due to my own health
When something changes the way we view ourselves (aka we face an identity shift), many of us say things like “I need to get it together.” At the same time, we feel less certain of ourselves, we feel like we’re lacking direction and clarity. And
One of the challenges many people face when pursuing ongoing personal growth is choosing what to work on next. Every time we achieve a goal or finish working on one thing, there’s a period of time where it’s like “okay… I did that, so what
Whether it’s learning a new skill, taking care of our health and bodies, or working towards any other goal, almost all of us have started something we’ve never finished. In this post, you’ll find some simple steps to restarting something you’ve wanted to do, but
Last week, I almost made a decision I wouldn’t know I’d regret. Yeah, you read that right. What I mean by this is: I almost missed out on something that is now bringing me a lot of joy. And it’s kind of scary. Not scary
Over the last week, I’ve been reading “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle. And while every page of that book is overflowing with wisdom, there was one passage about how we measure success that really caught my attention. Eckhart writes, “Don’t let a mad world
In the last 24 hours, I’ve tried to read a book on three separate occasions. Each time, I flipped to my bookmark that hasn’t moved in weeks, read one paragraph, and somehow, the next thing I remember is waking up from an unplanned nap. “Hm.”
When we ask ourselves the question, “what is my life purpose?,” it’s far too easy to get overwhelmed and overthink it. When I was in high school and college, I remember feeling a lot of pressure to find that one special, perfectly aligned thing. It
Just day’s before I’m writing this post, Twenty One Pilots released their new song, “Shy Away.” The song explores themes of bravery and growth, and deeply corresponds to concepts life coaches explore with their clients. The lyrics include extremely profound pieces of encouragement for anyone
When I was growing up, everyone told me to do my best, but nobody told me that doing your best could backfire, big time. Trying hard and doing your best can reap many rewards in your lifetime, but what happens if you overdo it? If
As I’ve begun practicing coaching over the last few months, I’ve found that many of you have some big and beautiful goals. Whether you’re aiming to pay for your current schooling, start a nonprofit, transform your relationships, or build your own career, your big goals
We say “I need to…” when something has been assigned at work or school. We say “I need to…” when we have chores that are overdo. And we say “I need to…” when we’re avoiding the next thing on our to-do list. Usually when we use
One of the reasons many people don’t stick with the new habits is because they love the idea of the results that they’ll achieve, but they don’t love the idea of actually doing it. Unfortunately, the actions necessary to create life changing habits hardly ever
Most people experience fear of failure in their lifetimes. It’s totally normal and understandable, but it’s also potentially harmful. As far as I’ve observed, a fear of failure seems to be the biggest factor that stops people from creating a life they love. If we
I was having a conversation with my partner (Bradley) about the importance of being “present in the moment”, when I realized being “present” is something I fundamentally struggle with. As an over-involved and overcommitted extrovert, I’ve spent years constantly thinking about the next thing on
We tend to reserve celebrating for life events that are “a big deal” because we want those moments to feel “extra special.” But there is so much more about our journey through life that is special and deserves to be celebrated. Why We Should Celebrate
Do you have something you’ve wanted to do for a long time, but could never quite muster the motivation to start? Well, you’re definitely not alone. This past week, I had a handful conversations with dear friends who are each in a transitional state in
