Do you find it difficult to actually relax in your off time? In this post, I’m sharing what I’ve discovered often causes this feeling, and what we can do about it, so we can finally relax. Before figuring out why I couldn’t relax, my life looked a little like this…
There’s a common misunderstanding that can create a lot of unnecessary shame when we’re struggling: Read on to avoid making this mistake Sometimes when we’re struggling, we interpret the struggle as a sign that there is something wrong with us. We think, “If I can’t get myself to do this,
When I hear 20-somethings joking about “being old”, I wonder, What are we subconsciously implying? And how does this affect the way we view our lives? Perhaps that there are fewer opportunities to have fun? Or that there is less time to do and figure out what we want to
Earlier this month, I did a 5k race called “The Dream Dash” in memory of my friend, Joe Manfreda, who died unexpectedly when we were juniors in high school. It was the first one I’ve run in a few years due to my own health challenges coupled with the Covid-19
I was sitting in the reclined chair at the dentist wondering, “Is anybody seeing this?” As the dental hygienist aggressively flossed my teeth. Despite being super soft spoken, it felt like the man had a vendetta against my gums. So I’m stuck in this chair, unbelievably uncomfortable, desperately wanting the
Since feeling like we’re not enough is something that most of us have felt often, I’ve got a metaphor to help you lean towards a feeling of enoughness (especially when you’ve fallen into the habit of comparing yourself to others). While the writing in this post is mine, I pulled
In last week’s post “3 Ways to Become The Driver of Your Own Thoughts,” I offered three approaches to intentionally invite our minds to give us better/more helpful thoughts. But as I re-read the post, I realized there is so much more to the third approach, “orienting,” that I couldn’t
While we may rarely be in total control of our thoughts and emotions, there are some steps we can take to help set the course of our consciousness, to gain some semblance of control, and become the driver of our own thoughts. In this week’s post. I’m offering up some
When I started Self Love Atlas, I did it because I noticed a harshness: a harshness in the way we talk to ourselves and the way we treat our bodies. This harshness exists in our minds, and it appears as a whole lot of “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts.” We think to
When you were a young child, what did the people around you teach you about your own emotions? Were you told that they were useful? Useless? Irrational? Reactive? Valid? Or Unreasonable? The labelling of emotions as “irrational” has led many people to suppress their feelings and conclude that they are
Why does it seem like a day off is never enough to make us feel rested? In this post, I’ll answer that question and explain 3 lies busy people tell themselves about rest that prevent them from actually getting it. I’ll also provide 11 suggestions for rest and recharging that
When I was growing up, everyone told me to do my best, but nobody told me that doing your best could backfire, big time. Trying hard and doing your best can reap many rewards in your lifetime, but what happens if you overdo it? If you identify as a busy
At times, the people in your life will fail to meet your expectations. Maybe they’ll show up late to a date, maybe they won’t wash their dishes, or maybe they won’t say thank you after you gave them a gift. When our expectations aren’t met, it’s frustrating, disappointing, and sometimes
Whenever I found myself frustrated or anxious as a child, my dad would ask, “Are you using your Thinking Brain or your Feeling Brain?” This was his way of encouraging me to pause and acknowledge my thoughts and feelings and process whatever was going on in my mind. Surprisingly, most
