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how to make your own success metrics, redefine success and measure success on your own terms

Redefining Success: How to Make Your Own Success Metrics

Over the last week, I’ve been reading “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle. And while every page of that book is overflowing with wisdom, there was one passage about how we measure success that really caught my attention.  Eckhart writes,  “Don’t let a mad world

prompts to help start new habits with confidence and clarity

Start A New Habit with Me!

In the last 24 hours, I’ve tried to read a book on three separate occasions. Each time, I flipped to my bookmark that hasn’t moved in weeks, read one paragraph, and somehow, the next thing I remember is waking up from an unplanned nap. “Hm.”

the unique shape of your life purpose and five characteristics to descibe how purpose shows up in our lives.

The Unique Shape of Your Life Purpose

When we ask ourselves the question, “what is my life purpose?,” it’s far too easy to get overwhelmed and overthink it. When I was in high school and college, I remember feeling a lot of pressure to find that one special, perfectly aligned thing. It

everybody has something to say about your life choices, it's time to tune them out and have confidence in yourself. Live the life you want to live. The critics and the hater always have something to say but what they say is just noise.

When Critics Disapprove of Your Life Choices

In this post, I’m sharing an attitude that will help you maintain confidence in your life choices, even when other people disapprove. Every time you make a conscious choice to live your life the way you want to live it. There’s going to be someone

taking action in our lives can be very intimidating. But to overcome this intimidation, we may need to do a bit of self talk so we can keep going even when the road ahead seems hard.

The Intimidation of Taking Action: A Monologue

This post is very different from the other posts on this blog. Instead of being informational, it’s a guided visualization to help with overcoming the intimidation involved with “taking action” in our lives. Because let’s be honest, taking action to achieve something, no matter how big

it's time to get comfortable with saying no. setting personal boundaries is important to gain control over your time and energy so other people don't step on you or take advantage of you.

Getting Comfortable with Saying No

Have you ever felt guilty for saying no?  Or uncomfortable saying yes? Have you found yourself trying to please others at the cost of your own well-being? If you said yes to any of these, then you might benefit from getting comfortable with saying “no”.

what to expect during your next identity shift

What to Expect During Your Next Identity Shift

Having labels or identities that help explain who we are can give us a strong sense of self. But what happens when we lose one of our identities? What happens when something we once called ourselves no longer fits the picture of our lives? In

Finding Anchors in Hard Times

When life gets hard, where do you turn? Do you turn to friends? Faith? A therapist? A quiet place where you can be alone? Regardless of where you choose to turn, everyone needs something to lean on when times get tough. The things I turn

real rest in limited time, here are 3 lies people tell themselves about rest and 12 ways to get rest without sleeping

Real Rest in Limited Time

Why does it seem like a day off is never enough to make us feel rested? In this post, I’ll answer that question and explain 3 lies busy people tell themselves about rest that prevent them from actually getting it. I’ll also provide 11 suggestions

The Strength That Lies in Your Roots

Because of the isolation and distancing of Covid, many people are feeling more disconnected, alone, and unmotivated than ever before. But recently, I realized that mentally acknowledging our connection to our roots (i.e. the people who came before us) can create a strong sense of

Money Doesn’t Love You Back

Having a relationship with money is nothing like having a relationship with a real person. But if left unchecked, a relationship with money can start to negatively impact the other relationships in our lives (without us even realizing it!). In this post, we’ll discuss a

40 Healthy Alternatives to Time-Wasting Habits

40 Healthy Alternatives to Time-Wasting Habits

One of the quickest and simplest ways to show yourself some love is to replace habits that don’t serve you with ones that do. In this post, you’ll learn how to locate time-wasting habits, and find a list of 40 things you can replace them

the downside of doing your best, if your dont define what it means to do your best, you can work too hard and burn yourself out, how to avoid making this mistake

The Downside of Doing Your Best

When I was growing up, everyone told me to do my best, but nobody told me that doing your best could backfire, big time. Trying hard and doing your best can reap many rewards in your lifetime, but what happens if you overdo it?  If

Self-Care Made Simple

Although self-care is becoming far more popular in recent years, there’s still some negative stigma associated with doing things for ourselves. This is a huge problem, because if we can’t view caring for ourselves in a positive light, chances are we will fail to maintain

hope for 2021

A Dose of Hope for 2021

Today I’m feeling very weird about the new year approaching. Normally, the new year is a time for resetting, reflection, and celebration with friends. Normally, it feels like a beginning and an end at the same time. But this year, it feels like more of

do more and stress less using this mindset trick

One Simple Mindset Trick to Do More and Stress Less

We say “I need to…” when something has been assigned at work or school. We say “I need to…” when we have chores that are overdo. And we say “I need to…” when we’re avoiding the next thing on our to-do list. Usually when we use