Learning how to express your needs in any relationship can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be. In this post, I’ll show you three steps to expressing your needs clearly and concisely. In a way that is disarming and invites mutual understanding with the other person. If want to
If you want to have an amazing life, you also want to make sure the goals you’re setting aren’t just stamps on a success passport. Success and fulfillment are very different things, but they often get conflated. If the only goals we set for ourselves are based on our culture’s
Earlier this month, I did a 5k race called “The Dream Dash” in memory of my friend, Joe Manfreda, who died unexpectedly when we were juniors in high school. It was the first one I’ve run in a few years due to my own health challenges coupled with the Covid-19
Want to support Ukrainian people fleeing war and support your emotional/mental well-being at the same time? Keep reading. While I recognize that my geopolitical understanding of the Russian Invasion in Ukraine is limited. I feel it is important to both publicly state my position, and take some form of action
I was sitting in the reclined chair at the dentist wondering, “Is anybody seeing this?” As the dental hygienist aggressively flossed my teeth. Despite being super soft spoken, it felt like the man had a vendetta against my gums. So I’m stuck in this chair, unbelievably uncomfortable, desperately wanting the
In last week’s post “3 Ways to Become The Driver of Your Own Thoughts,” I offered three approaches to intentionally invite our minds to give us better/more helpful thoughts. But as I re-read the post, I realized there is so much more to the third approach, “orienting,” that I couldn’t
While we may rarely be in total control of our thoughts and emotions, there are some steps we can take to help set the course of our consciousness, to gain some semblance of control, and become the driver of our own thoughts. In this week’s post. I’m offering up some
When something changes the way we view ourselves (aka we face an identity shift), many of us say things like “I need to get it together.” At the same time, we feel less certain of ourselves, we feel like we’re lacking direction and clarity. And although we want to move
When I started Self Love Atlas, I did it because I noticed a harshness: a harshness in the way we talk to ourselves and the way we treat our bodies. This harshness exists in our minds, and it appears as a whole lot of “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts.” We think to
Did you know that a simple mindset shift can help doing chores feel better to you? Keep reading to learn how. I recently visited a friend who was having a hard time emotionally. We spent some quality time together, and after a good heart-to-heart conversation, they looked around their room,
After a recent conversation with a history buff, I realized that there’s a lot about the average human being’s work-life balance that is relatively new to humanity. Human lives used to have natural personal and professional boundaries set by the limitations of our technology. Before light bulbs existed, all kinds
In 2018, I stood in a tiny room with blue expo markings stretching wall to wall on a white board. The words were a long list of my involvements, jobs, and classes: a complete map of my overbooked schedule. All I really wanted was to be able to “do my
One of the challenges many people face when pursuing ongoing personal growth is choosing what to work on next. Every time we achieve a goal or finish working on one thing, there’s a period of time where it’s like “okay… I did that, so what now?” And it would be
Over the last week, I’ve been reading “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle. And while every page of that book is overflowing with wisdom, there was one passage about how we measure success that really caught my attention. Eckhart writes, “Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is
Having a relationship with money is nothing like having a relationship with a real person. But if left unchecked, a relationship with money can start to negatively impact the other relationships in our lives (without us even realizing it!). In this post, we’ll discuss a boundary that needs to be
One of the quickest and simplest ways to show yourself some love is to replace habits that don’t serve you with ones that do. In this post, you’ll learn how to locate time-wasting habits, and find a list of 40 things you can replace them with to improve your quality
When I was growing up, everyone told me to do my best, but nobody told me that doing your best could backfire, big time. Trying hard and doing your best can reap many rewards in your lifetime, but what happens if you overdo it? If you identify as a busy
One of the reasons many people don’t stick with the new habits is because they love the idea of the results that they’ll achieve, but they don’t love the idea of actually doing it. Unfortunately, the actions necessary to create life changing habits hardly ever sound appetizing. But what if
Feelings of peace are technically available to you right now, but there is something getting in your way: urgency. It is perfectly normal to feel a sense of urgency when we have numerous responsibilities, approaching deadlines, or problems to solve. But as soon as these pressing matters begin piling on
Self-love is one of the most important tools you will ever use in your search for fulfillment in life. And yet, the concept of self-love seems to be unfamiliar to most people. Self-love isn’t about selfishness, self-obsession, cockiness, self-importance, or some sort of superiority complex. It’s about developing a deep
