How can making decisions lighten the mental load for others? In our busy lives, we make lots of choices every day, both big and small. Whether it’s planning dinner with friends or deciding what task or project to do next, every single choice we make requires some amount of energy.
If you’re someone who tends to say sorry for minor misunderstandings, or things that are not your fault, and you want to stop saying sorry so much, this post is for you. What if you could break the habit of over apologizing, strengthen your connections with others, and become more
Learning how to express your needs in any relationship can be challenging, but it doesn’t have to be. In this post, I’ll show you three steps to expressing your needs clearly and concisely. In a way that is disarming and invites mutual understanding with the other person. If want to
Warning: If you decide you want to make a 3 or 5 year plan, there’s something you should know. A plan is NOT a code of conduct. It’s not a law. It’s not a spell cast over you that you are therefore “bound to follow through on.” When we made
Are you wanting to finally start a project you’ve been putting off? Whether it be decluttering a space, creating something, or checking an intimidating task off our to-do list, there’s probably a part of us that would LOVE to avoid starting that project to the ends of the earth (if
I was sitting in the reclined chair at the dentist wondering, “Is anybody seeing this?” As the dental hygienist aggressively flossed my teeth. Despite being super soft spoken, it felt like the man had a vendetta against my gums. So I’m stuck in this chair, unbelievably uncomfortable, desperately wanting the
In last week’s post “3 Ways to Become The Driver of Your Own Thoughts,” I offered three approaches to intentionally invite our minds to give us better/more helpful thoughts. But as I re-read the post, I realized there is so much more to the third approach, “orienting,” that I couldn’t
While we may rarely be in total control of our thoughts and emotions, there are some steps we can take to help set the course of our consciousness, to gain some semblance of control, and become the driver of our own thoughts. In this week’s post. I’m offering up some
When I started Self Love Atlas, I did it because I noticed a harshness: a harshness in the way we talk to ourselves and the way we treat our bodies. This harshness exists in our minds, and it appears as a whole lot of “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts.” We think to
After a recent conversation with a history buff, I realized that there’s a lot about the average human being’s work-life balance that is relatively new to humanity. Human lives used to have natural personal and professional boundaries set by the limitations of our technology. Before light bulbs existed, all kinds
In 2018, I stood in a tiny room with blue expo markings stretching wall to wall on a white board. The words were a long list of my involvements, jobs, and classes: a complete map of my overbooked schedule. All I really wanted was to be able to “do my
Over the last week, I’ve been reading “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle. And while every page of that book is overflowing with wisdom, there was one passage about how we measure success that really caught my attention. Eckhart writes, “Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is
In the last 24 hours, I’ve tried to read a book on three separate occasions. Each time, I flipped to my bookmark that hasn’t moved in weeks, read one paragraph, and somehow, the next thing I remember is waking up from an unplanned nap. “Hm.” I thought to myself. “That
Have you ever felt guilty for saying no? Or uncomfortable saying yes? Have you found yourself trying to please others at the cost of your own well-being? If you said yes to any of these, then you might benefit from getting comfortable with saying “no”. Saying no is an essential
One of the quickest and simplest ways to show yourself some love is to replace habits that don’t serve you with ones that do. In this post, you’ll learn how to locate time-wasting habits, and find a list of 40 things you can replace them with to improve your quality
At times, the people in your life will fail to meet your expectations. Maybe they’ll show up late to a date, maybe they won’t wash their dishes, or maybe they won’t say thank you after you gave them a gift. When our expectations aren’t met, it’s frustrating, disappointing, and sometimes
Ever since our routines were disrupted by the ongoing coronavirus pandemic, I’ve heard numerous references to people “working in pajamas” or “not wearing pants” to video calls. While I am happy that many people have had the chance to remain “comfortable” in some ways (however small), there’s something that worries
All human beings share a basic and common desire: the desire to be loved. Luckily for us, there are plenty of things we can give over and over again to help fulfill this desire for others (without ever running out!). Because we have the capacity to give in ways that
I’ve been told “surround yourself with good people” more times than I can count, but doing this is easier said than done. While most of us know that choosing good people to keep close in our lives is beneficial, many of us don’t truly understand the full extent to which
Affirmations are one of the most commonly cited tools in the self-help industry. Almost everyone in the 21st century has heard of them. Yet, many authors and bloggers in the industry miss the most important tip when explaining how affirmations work. As a result, many people attempt to use affirmations
